So ... I was kind of disappointed in the results of the poll. I feel as if many people may not have understood where I was coming from. It isn't that I would be losing weight in order to find someone. I would be losing it so I felt more comfortable in my own skin until I found someone supportive enough to overcome the day to day discomfort from being a bigger guy. No matter how much someone presents themselves as being a confident gainer there is always going to be the little voice in the back of their mind. That voice constantly says "What are you doing to yourself" "Is this morally right" "Are these just temptations". It makes a huge difference to have a true support system to reassure you of what you are doing. It is immoral to expect someone to continue gaining for your own pleasure without considering the repercussions that they will have to endure day in and day out. It is a great and fun fantasy to think of a guy gaining against his will, but in real life it isn't right.
I do feel fairly comfortable with my size and I feel as if I would like to get a little bigger but I don't want to do it on my own. I miss the looks that I would get when I was skinny. I long for the attention and ease of finding fashionable clothing. The eroticism of the weight has begun to wane, while the support system has begun to crumble. The constant tale of "If I were closer" or "If I had the money" doesn't suffice for the day to day longing for physical closeness and companionship.
I don't want any of you to be disappointed. I haven't decided to lose any of the weight. I have just been thinking about my life and what I want from it. I do appreciate the online comments and for those of you who I have had the fortune of meeting I thank you very much and hold you near to my heart.
I don't mean to sound like I'm lecturing anyone. I would just like to show a different angle on gaining and how many gainers feel. Gaining can be an incredibly erotic transformation, but it needs to be kept in check. It can be incredibly detrimental, not only to one's body, but to the mind and spirit. A gainer is a person, with feelings and thoughts, not just an object. Keep this in mind when you try and bring your fantasies to life.
As Always.
Eat Up!
Hey, My name is Ray. As a fellow gainer, I, too, have had this "Am I doing the right thing" type of moment. And you are correct to continue using the reasoning you are using.
ReplyDeleteThis economy that we live in doesn't give us gainers the right support that we need to maintain our gaining lifestyles. Plus, it is growing harder to find the stable guy to live with, much less gain with.
I never knew how it feels skinny. But, at the same time, I don't know what it feels like to be in love with a guy. For the ten years I have been gaining and admitted to myself that I was gay, I knew the attention and "love" from everyone else. But to find that guy who would love me no matter what my size, I never knew that. I guess we are all looking for those fantastic pipe dreams of true love.
So, I do know what you are going through, and you can do what you please. You're cute, smart, and likable. I'm sure the right guy will come along for you someday.
On a side note, if you ever want to chat sometime with me, hit me up on yahoo messenger (zion_chubby14). I would like to get to know you more and see if I can help you with anything.
Just wanted to let you know that as you continue to gain and get fatter, that you are an inspiration to all of us who follow your progress. I think that you should definately aim for 300# or more. You are totally hot. As you have gained you have been so generous to share pics of yourself and your growing belly. Please continue to gain and share your pictures with all of us who find a growing guy a vision of loveliness. You are SO cute and so fat. Best to you always. Tom
ReplyDeleteI think you underestimate some of the confident gainers
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